Monday, 8 May 2017

A To Z Reflection Post

26 Alphabets, 30 Days and a new adventure! Knowing nothing... to sailing confidently, our journey has seen us graduating in the blogging world with new and exciting learning. Was it the journey drenched with showers of articles, short stories, poems, sounds and sights in the virtual world, only??? We think, it was far more than that...it was journey that originated from within, to a newer us, with new poise and new facets of self showing up at most unexpected bends en route the journey! 

With six active MocktailMommies and two in the supportive and moral boosting mode for this challenge, we had more than eight different takes on this fascinating voyage! Check out the AToZChallenge from different perspectives....


MocktailMommy Vidhi's take....
Mine was going to to be the first article for the challenge. I felt like an opening batsman going out in the field. The tone of our voyage through #AToZChallenge would have heavy bearing on how we manage the first day! This was our first attempt at the challenge. Add to this, we are pretty new to blogging world too...Its been just eight months that we had started our blogging journey! To begin with I chose and was assigned topics that were related to my domain knowledge...art, craft and fashion! As the challenge progressed, I wished to write something that was not my forte. All the readings that I was doing during the month cheered me to write and voila...I discovered a new me, a writer!!! Thanks #AToZChallenge for this new disovery!!

MocktailMommy Karishma's take....
It was a challenge, so I pushed myself to live up to it...I did my best to come out of my comfort zone and learnt one brilliant thing....I could write on varied topics!!! There was a story teller, a writer and creative person hidden for so many years, within me. It gave me opportunity to read myriads of articles on very interesting subjects. It also planted lots of seeds...seeds of new ideas, outlook, thoughts that had never occurred before! And what a platform...the entire world was the audience! Loved every bit of #AToZChallenge. Now I am filled to the brim with the hope and faith that we are ready to ride once again!

MocktailMommy Anagha's take....
Will we or wont we? The first week of the challenge was clouded with this very thought for me! After the first few days, jitters were replaced by caution. Later it changed to more adventurous and exhilarating mode! The more I read the fellow bloggers' articles, day in and day out, it enriched my experience of blogging. Many posts made me ponder, some made me giggle, some made me appreciate the beauty of the thinking brain. I used to eagerly wait to finish my daily chores and hop on to my reading marathon! Without even realizing, we made some digital mates who would come by and express their views, and encourage us.  Thank you is such a minuscule word for my feeling towards these new friends. We owe a lot to them!  To sum up, I would say, it was a marvelous, most memorable journey that I have ever embarked on, with my beloved friends as company! Without the rest of my seven comrades, I wonder whether I would have ever taken up #AToZChallenge! And thank you Team Blogchatter for this opportunity!

MocktailMommy Prasanna's take....
26 posts...sent alarm bells ringing in my head!! I am not so very good at handling deadlines and even worse so at being creative with a sword dangling over my head. The challenge started way before April for us(as it must have for many fellow bloggers). Selecting topics was the most challenging task. We had absolutely no clue about what others may find interesting. Being first time participants made our anxiety only worse. As if things weren't bad enough, Anagha (our only hope in IT dept, other than Karishma) was travelling on the first few days. But our dedication and determination to go through with this helped us all overcome our technological handicap and surge ahead in top gear. After that came the real party...the amazing blogs, the encouragement and love from the blogging community, the feedback, the comments, the shares....they all made us feel a little overwhelmed. THANK  YOU(have put that in bold letters on purpose, to convey intensity)to each and every one who was there for us, including our poor better-halves. We could not have done this without you. Love you all!!!!

MocktailMommy Ruchi's take....
To begin with I thought this is going to be pretty tough! One thing was to come up with the articles, another was handling different platforms (blogger, twitter and FB) and last and most important finding time to read and manage the joint family back home! But the doubting mind soon was blown into bits and pieces...courtesy my resolve to make it...this time or never!! With this very notion, I started my journey...it was more of knowing and exploring self and the world around. I was very much enriched by the articles that I read! Thanks #AToZChallenge for bringing out the more confident me!

MocktailMommy Rupa's take....
During the initial meetings that we MocktailMommies had on #AToZChallenge, I could not be a participants owing to some other engagements on home turf. So to begin with I felt little clueless and lost in the process. But evening time was the time where I would catch up with other MMs (i.e. MocktailMommies) to get abreast. Soon I found myself on the same ship as the rest of my gang! And then it was time for my article...I still can hear the palpitation that I had on that day. The entire world being our stage was something that fascinated and excited me, thanks #AToZChallenge!! The encouraging responses and reviews boosted my morale. In the end, it was a great exploration!

Views, from different persons, from different perspective...all point to only one feeling...feeling of Gratitude...towards #AToZChallenge! Challenge really meant a lot to us and will have a prized place in our hearts, forever!

Saturday, 29 April 2017

Zebra Crossing

" Hurry up guys..hop on...we are kinda late!", I blurted out as I got my car to the podium where two eager souls and a calm heart was waiting for me. We were to go for a movie and were running late.  It was a date with much awaited movie show for three generations..me, my mom and my kids. "Some one's mom is gonna fly us to the theater", said my mom. And before everyone was comfortable in their seats, I drove off! Not only the movie, but the trailer of the upcoming releases, ahead of the show, was something I really loved to watch, always! So did not wish to miss them. 

Murphy's* law (if something has to go wrong, it will!) was very much interested in proving itself right that day. And I feel, rather strongly feel that when we are running out of time, it does turn out as the naughty goblin...And it did! We were stuck in the traffic, courtesy the marriage procession and then some un-supportive traffic signals. The movie theater was just few blocks away from where we had started. But...here I was, stuck at the last traffic signal, with few minutes to go for the show to start off...I could see the movie theater and was hopeful that we would make it in time! Alas...the amber had to turn red at this very second, why- o- why..I wondered.

My thoughts were talking loudly with me. But then I sensed some commotion outside. From the rear view mirror, I saw a gentleman frantically waving and gesturing. Suddenly I could hear the loud honking. Again I checked in the mirror and realized that gentleman was asking me to go ahead. I was clueless. The red signal was red enough yet! I was just behind the zebra crossing. Few pedestrians were half way through the road crossing. 

"Tuck Tuck"...there was a knock on my side of the window. As I lowered the pane, I saw the same boor, standing right next to me and arguing to take the car ahead. How fast this man had jumped out of his car, I wondered, as if in jiffy...I was really impressed!!!! His noble point of view was that I should have taken my car ahead of the zebra crossing, and should have saved some time. I could see from his expressions that he actually meant to call me a lousy lady driver! Veraciously, I replied, "Do you think, I am going to build my house here at the junction? Or build some garage for my car here? Red does seem to be red yet....whats your opinion?" The gentleman got the message and murmuring some not so good words, he went back.

To make the situation lighter, my daughter said, "Mom, do you know one thing? All zebras have white and black stripes. But like our finger prints, they also have different patterns! Imagine if our roads also had different patterns of the zebra stripes..." I was amazed at this thought! 

That very moment, my mother, who was sitting next to me, pointed at the mother and daughter duo who were crossing the road. The daughter, a kindergartner, was happy to hop and jump on alternate white strip and was singing some rhyme. For her, the entire world had frozen and she was happy playing on the keys of the piano to make the most melodious song! She was the performer and she was her own audience... a pure bliss! And mother wore a terribly frustrated look! What a contrast I thought! But that's what the life is all about!

So which side of the zebra crossing are you on?

----------By MocktailMommy Anagha

Friday, 28 April 2017

YES BOSS


"Boss"...  one of the most important and equally complex relationship in a corporate environment. As we take a first dip in the corporate world, our immediate reporting manager becomes a guide or captain who helps us to sail through the initial phases of our career. Since we must trust and follow our mentor, we tend to agree on most of the issues. That’s when we come across this most frequently used word ‘YES BOSS’!

Though in totality, the word depicts positive affirmation, the intention or thought behind it is very critical. Even though this word is used for boss management, there are divided school of thoughts in its application and intent.

Many of them follow this simple rule of ‘YES BOSS’ either due to fear of conflict or some of them use it for their own advantage. It’s often argued whether success is purely dependent upon sincerity, effort and ability to work??? Raises, perks and promotion often depend directly on how you manage your manager. This often leads to wonder to what extent there should be agreement and when to apply the brake.   

In every organisation, you would find a person who has this tendency to agree on almost everything with his manager. Not surprisingly, he turns out be the favourite among the lot and this makes us to think whether the ‘YES BOSS’ rule has a big role to play???

It reminds me of a Bollywood movie “Yes Boss” which gives us a good learning in a true sense. The movie evolves around an ordinary person who blindly follows his boss's order to fulfill his dream. Though his intention is pure, it eventually lands up him in trouble due his manager's evil intention. It also raises the question whether he should have applied his consciousness which would have raised conflict in short terms but yielded positive results in long term. 

The golden rule is that one must work with sincerity and dedication. Some of the smart way of working to avoid conflicts are...
 1) Put up your sincere opinion and not argument
2) Strive for Open Communication
3) Simply trust in some matters and go ahead
4) Demonstrate your capabilities and initiatives
5) Develop healthy and respectful relationship

The most important thing to remember is ‘Be Yourself’ and do not compromise or follow others. If you follow the golden rules, you are sure to achieve the desired goal and not always follow the “YES BOSS” way!!!


---------------By MocktailMommy Rupa

Thursday, 27 April 2017

Xciting Thing That Never Happened!!!

"Hurrah!! The Vacation Started.............." came shouting, my daughter ...returning home from last day of her school. What a relief........when those words reached my ears....now at least for few days.......no more getting up early......preparing tiffin.....taking studies......Ahh! I was so happy as if it was my vacation!!!

Good Thought!! What if it was my vacation, what would I have done???Wishes and dreams fly with the speed of sunlight or may be faster.... While cooking food in the kitchen, I was tele-ported my wonderland!

First thing first.....Fresh and hot cuppa of tea in the open lawns of my bungalow nestled in nature's beauty, surrounded by snow clad mountains, valleys and greenery all around! Was it the nature around or the hot tea that was pleasing my senses...hard to find out!

No bargaining in dreams please......Sky is the Limit!!

Next is to take my own sweet time to get ready.. thats a luxury you know... ask any mom of two bubbly kids!  And here I am ready to have a roller coaster ride.

Ride on my magnificent beast...The Royal Enfield bike. Let me make it crystal clear, I will be riding the bike on the narrow roads of huge mountains with valleys besides and the waterfall around wherein people are having fun, doing river rafting; Stopping somewhere at the corner of the road,taking a snap or a selfie with the beauty of the place in local traditional outfit!

In afternoon, it was the time to have lunch as I was hungry....being hilly area the only thing we could have was sizzling spicy hot Maggi.....with almost 10 variations. SSHH!! ......its so spicy......Lend me some water please...this is what I reach out for.

After finishing so called lunch the ride continues with nothing to do more....than to find a quiet open space perfect for the scenic sunset.......and in the evening to have a hot cup of tea with that scenic sunset......with no words to speak.....just to be together ... to connect to self and the Supreme!!

Shsh!!!! suddenly the whistle of the cooker popped up......bringing me back to my kitchen and to present. Here I was, the Alice in real land... where my kids were shouting for lunch and household chores asking me to finish it up!!! Xciting thing that never happened...or may I say...one that happened to me just now???


----------------By MocktailMommy Karishma

Wednesday, 26 April 2017

Why???...To Why Not!!!

Why (Y) for women :
Why ??? 'why' always has be a first question for all women ....may it be her personal life or professional life or family life? She always has to face first of all a...  " why " ???  Nearly a hundred years since women won the right to vote, their political and societal power is still only a fifth of what it should be... 

 Now , it's a high time that we need our space , our freedom , our identity, our growth ... History had witnessed many women with exceptional bravery and intelligence who walked shoulder to shoulder with men of their times. Let us remember woman of the freedom era who fought bravely for their country and contributed towards the achievement of independence of the country India. They are still source of inspiration for us , They still fill our hearts with respect and courage. 

In simple words, we have the brilliant opportunity to expand our philosophical, psychological , physical and professional potential by obtaining our God given right to become educated. An educated woman who has absorbed the many different perspective of life. So , first we have to make every single woman ' a educated woman '. Then only we women will start opening up more often in private setting and find our voices and feel more empowered to speak our minds publicly and prominently , too.

"Is this possible that a woman gets freedom in the fearful environment? "  NO. Freedom means something different to each one of us. Freedom to a woman  may mean that she wants the clean and quite place , a place where there is equality in gender , where people live and let others live also , a place of friendship, a place full of positive thoughts , a place where she is safe , a place where she can walk alone freely without any fear, and many more things. Today's woman, fortunately has got freedom of expressing her point of view ...

Modern women is  free to choose , to make decisions.... Then why  ....this "why" always has to confront us???  " Women need freedom , not protection "... Our opinion matters !!! We are living in 21st century. Still some of the question faced by us, even today, never seemed to have changed for women from ages. So now it's time to take decisions and exert that we have our opinions and they do count!

Why I can't drive better than my husband ?
Why I can't proposed to my boyfriend first ?
Why I can't be a big action movie fan ?
Why I can't win in arm wrestling fight with my brother ?
Why I can't beat my boyfriend in FIFA ?
Why I can't be a superhero of my kids?
Why I can't train him in a gym ?
Why I can't fix the bulb ?
Why I can't be a home maker ?
Why I can't wear a short skirt ?
Why I can't go on a road trip with my girls???

These questions are never ending ... but we have to change it !!!


We can choose to do anything...... be something bigger than  what the world want you to be ...

I get to choose .... we get to choose !!! From Why??...To Why Not!!!

-----------------By MocktailMommy Vidhi