Saturday, 29 April 2017

Zebra Crossing

" Hurry up guys..hop on...we are kinda late!", I blurted out as I got my car to the podium where two eager souls and a calm heart was waiting for me. We were to go for a movie and were running late.  It was a date with much awaited movie show for three generations..me, my mom and my kids. "Some one's mom is gonna fly us to the theater", said my mom. And before everyone was comfortable in their seats, I drove off! Not only the movie, but the trailer of the upcoming releases, ahead of the show, was something I really loved to watch, always! So did not wish to miss them. 

Murphy's* law (if something has to go wrong, it will!) was very much interested in proving itself right that day. And I feel, rather strongly feel that when we are running out of time, it does turn out as the naughty goblin...And it did! We were stuck in the traffic, courtesy the marriage procession and then some un-supportive traffic signals. The movie theater was just few blocks away from where we had started. But...here I was, stuck at the last traffic signal, with few minutes to go for the show to start off...I could see the movie theater and was hopeful that we would make it in time! Alas...the amber had to turn red at this very second, why- o- why..I wondered.

My thoughts were talking loudly with me. But then I sensed some commotion outside. From the rear view mirror, I saw a gentleman frantically waving and gesturing. Suddenly I could hear the loud honking. Again I checked in the mirror and realized that gentleman was asking me to go ahead. I was clueless. The red signal was red enough yet! I was just behind the zebra crossing. Few pedestrians were half way through the road crossing. 

"Tuck Tuck"...there was a knock on my side of the window. As I lowered the pane, I saw the same boor, standing right next to me and arguing to take the car ahead. How fast this man had jumped out of his car, I wondered, as if in jiffy...I was really impressed!!!! His noble point of view was that I should have taken my car ahead of the zebra crossing, and should have saved some time. I could see from his expressions that he actually meant to call me a lousy lady driver! Veraciously, I replied, "Do you think, I am going to build my house here at the junction? Or build some garage for my car here? Red does seem to be red yet....whats your opinion?" The gentleman got the message and murmuring some not so good words, he went back.

To make the situation lighter, my daughter said, "Mom, do you know one thing? All zebras have white and black stripes. But like our finger prints, they also have different patterns! Imagine if our roads also had different patterns of the zebra stripes..." I was amazed at this thought! 

That very moment, my mother, who was sitting next to me, pointed at the mother and daughter duo who were crossing the road. The daughter, a kindergartner, was happy to hop and jump on alternate white strip and was singing some rhyme. For her, the entire world had frozen and she was happy playing on the keys of the piano to make the most melodious song! She was the performer and she was her own audience... a pure bliss! And mother wore a terribly frustrated look! What a contrast I thought! But that's what the life is all about!

So which side of the zebra crossing are you on?

----------By MocktailMommy Anagha

Friday, 28 April 2017

YES BOSS


"Boss"...  one of the most important and equally complex relationship in a corporate environment. As we take a first dip in the corporate world, our immediate reporting manager becomes a guide or captain who helps us to sail through the initial phases of our career. Since we must trust and follow our mentor, we tend to agree on most of the issues. That’s when we come across this most frequently used word ‘YES BOSS’!

Though in totality, the word depicts positive affirmation, the intention or thought behind it is very critical. Even though this word is used for boss management, there are divided school of thoughts in its application and intent.

Many of them follow this simple rule of ‘YES BOSS’ either due to fear of conflict or some of them use it for their own advantage. It’s often argued whether success is purely dependent upon sincerity, effort and ability to work??? Raises, perks and promotion often depend directly on how you manage your manager. This often leads to wonder to what extent there should be agreement and when to apply the brake.   

In every organisation, you would find a person who has this tendency to agree on almost everything with his manager. Not surprisingly, he turns out be the favourite among the lot and this makes us to think whether the ‘YES BOSS’ rule has a big role to play???

It reminds me of a Bollywood movie “Yes Boss” which gives us a good learning in a true sense. The movie evolves around an ordinary person who blindly follows his boss's order to fulfill his dream. Though his intention is pure, it eventually lands up him in trouble due his manager's evil intention. It also raises the question whether he should have applied his consciousness which would have raised conflict in short terms but yielded positive results in long term. 

The golden rule is that one must work with sincerity and dedication. Some of the smart way of working to avoid conflicts are...
 1) Put up your sincere opinion and not argument
2) Strive for Open Communication
3) Simply trust in some matters and go ahead
4) Demonstrate your capabilities and initiatives
5) Develop healthy and respectful relationship

The most important thing to remember is ‘Be Yourself’ and do not compromise or follow others. If you follow the golden rules, you are sure to achieve the desired goal and not always follow the “YES BOSS” way!!!


---------------By MocktailMommy Rupa

Thursday, 27 April 2017

Xciting Thing That Never Happened!!!

"Hurrah!! The Vacation Started.............." came shouting, my daughter ...returning home from last day of her school. What a relief........when those words reached my ears....now at least for few days.......no more getting up early......preparing tiffin.....taking studies......Ahh! I was so happy as if it was my vacation!!!

Good Thought!! What if it was my vacation, what would I have done???Wishes and dreams fly with the speed of sunlight or may be faster.... While cooking food in the kitchen, I was tele-ported my wonderland!

First thing first.....Fresh and hot cuppa of tea in the open lawns of my bungalow nestled in nature's beauty, surrounded by snow clad mountains, valleys and greenery all around! Was it the nature around or the hot tea that was pleasing my senses...hard to find out!

No bargaining in dreams please......Sky is the Limit!!

Next is to take my own sweet time to get ready.. thats a luxury you know... ask any mom of two bubbly kids!  And here I am ready to have a roller coaster ride.

Ride on my magnificent beast...The Royal Enfield bike. Let me make it crystal clear, I will be riding the bike on the narrow roads of huge mountains with valleys besides and the waterfall around wherein people are having fun, doing river rafting; Stopping somewhere at the corner of the road,taking a snap or a selfie with the beauty of the place in local traditional outfit!

In afternoon, it was the time to have lunch as I was hungry....being hilly area the only thing we could have was sizzling spicy hot Maggi.....with almost 10 variations. SSHH!! ......its so spicy......Lend me some water please...this is what I reach out for.

After finishing so called lunch the ride continues with nothing to do more....than to find a quiet open space perfect for the scenic sunset.......and in the evening to have a hot cup of tea with that scenic sunset......with no words to speak.....just to be together ... to connect to self and the Supreme!!

Shsh!!!! suddenly the whistle of the cooker popped up......bringing me back to my kitchen and to present. Here I was, the Alice in real land... where my kids were shouting for lunch and household chores asking me to finish it up!!! Xciting thing that never happened...or may I say...one that happened to me just now???


----------------By MocktailMommy Karishma

Wednesday, 26 April 2017

Why???...To Why Not!!!

Why (Y) for women :
Why ??? 'why' always has be a first question for all women ....may it be her personal life or professional life or family life? She always has to face first of all a...  " why " ???  Nearly a hundred years since women won the right to vote, their political and societal power is still only a fifth of what it should be... 

 Now , it's a high time that we need our space , our freedom , our identity, our growth ... History had witnessed many women with exceptional bravery and intelligence who walked shoulder to shoulder with men of their times. Let us remember woman of the freedom era who fought bravely for their country and contributed towards the achievement of independence of the country India. They are still source of inspiration for us , They still fill our hearts with respect and courage. 

In simple words, we have the brilliant opportunity to expand our philosophical, psychological , physical and professional potential by obtaining our God given right to become educated. An educated woman who has absorbed the many different perspective of life. So , first we have to make every single woman ' a educated woman '. Then only we women will start opening up more often in private setting and find our voices and feel more empowered to speak our minds publicly and prominently , too.

"Is this possible that a woman gets freedom in the fearful environment? "  NO. Freedom means something different to each one of us. Freedom to a woman  may mean that she wants the clean and quite place , a place where there is equality in gender , where people live and let others live also , a place of friendship, a place full of positive thoughts , a place where she is safe , a place where she can walk alone freely without any fear, and many more things. Today's woman, fortunately has got freedom of expressing her point of view ...

Modern women is  free to choose , to make decisions.... Then why  ....this "why" always has to confront us???  " Women need freedom , not protection "... Our opinion matters !!! We are living in 21st century. Still some of the question faced by us, even today, never seemed to have changed for women from ages. So now it's time to take decisions and exert that we have our opinions and they do count!

Why I can't drive better than my husband ?
Why I can't proposed to my boyfriend first ?
Why I can't be a big action movie fan ?
Why I can't win in arm wrestling fight with my brother ?
Why I can't beat my boyfriend in FIFA ?
Why I can't be a superhero of my kids?
Why I can't train him in a gym ?
Why I can't fix the bulb ?
Why I can't be a home maker ?
Why I can't wear a short skirt ?
Why I can't go on a road trip with my girls???

These questions are never ending ... but we have to change it !!!


We can choose to do anything...... be something bigger than  what the world want you to be ...

I get to choose .... we get to choose !!! From Why??...To Why Not!!!

-----------------By MocktailMommy Vidhi

Tuesday, 25 April 2017

Vision Yoga




Yoga’ as the word, as the way of life, is gaining popularity across the world. The word ‘Vision’ added to it catches further attention since it involves one of the most vital organs of the human body. My daughter was recommended spectacle at an early stage of five and I was little disappointed and worried on how this would turn out going forward.
We were recommended to a therapy or course by our neighbour who had found positive result after completing the full course. We were little hesitant, however we thought there was nothing to lose to give it an attempt. We went through a routine check-up and were recommended a two-week course which was to be continued at home on everyday basis.

Vision Yoga is conceptualized by Dr R.S. Agarwal. He has studied and researched at the Sri Aurobindo School for Perfect Eyesight after which he has designed the course and exercise tools, techniques and material. He has been in this field since 1997 and has educated over eleven thousand people on restoring, maintaining and improving natural vision. People from all walks of life and all age groups from 4 years to 90 years have benefitted immensely from these simple yet powerful eye exercises. The preaching goes as ’YOU CAN PRESERVE AS WELL AS IMPROVE YOUR EYESIGHT THROUGH "VISION YOGA".

The course begins with a routine check-up with and without the specs to determine the course to be prescribed. You are provided with a kit with various charts, an eye patch, eye wash cup, acupressure thumb pad, ball etc to do the exercises. You will be guided to do the exercise by vision educators. Thereafter, you will continue to do the exercises for the remaining days based on the length of course (ranging from min two weeks to max four weeks). The exercise is far simple to perform (which can be performed by kids also) which includes looking at the object moving in different directions, reading in candle light, blinking eyes and acupressure which are specific to individuals based on their eye condition and treatment requirement. The course also includes a half day lecture which is very informative and provides insight on the care and proper use of eye.

My daughter still practices the exercises on a routine basis which has helped to get rid of her spectacle. I would also recommend this course not only for people who have some sight of eye disorder but also for others since this would help to maintain a healthy vision.

You may visit http://www.myvisionyoga.com for further better insights.


----------- By MocktailMommy Rupa